Ladies, is the man you’re dating “relationship material” – or would you be better off without him? Dr. Tina Tessina, psychotherapist and author of The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again, says there are four ways to tell when a man’s not a keeper.
Wish you could give the person you’re crushing on a personality test, to see what they’re really like? Forget the test. Just check out their Facebook page! Here’s what you their personal page can tell you:
It may not be fair, but it’s a fact: people will make assumptions about your personality before you even open your mouth. And a lot of times, those assumptions turn out to be right.
Researchers at Sonoma State University in California found that by looking at a full-body photo, the average observer can detect four personality traits fairly well – extroversion, openness to experiences, likeability and self-esteem. How? By relying on clues such as posture and clothing. Here’s how to best judge a book by its cover - and how people are judging YOU - courtesy of Psychology Today.
People who SMILE tend to be extroverted, empathic, likeable, and have a healthy amount of self-esteem. If someone walks with their arms behind their back, that’s also a sign of high self-esteem. By having their chest exposed, they’re allowing themselves to be vulnerable. However, if they stand with their arms folded in front of them, that indicates an introverted personality.
And finally, those with distinctive appearances – such as a wild hair color and tattoos – tend to be open to new experiences, but not always likeable and self-disciplined.
Did you hear about the doctor who refused to treat a patient because the woman weighed 200 pounds? The patient was totally embarrassed and humiliated. But guess what – it’s not illegal! In fact, the A.M.A.’s Council on Ethics and Judicial Affairs believes that doctors should be free to choose who want to deal with and that includes refusing to treat someone because they’re obese.
The physician in question is Dr. Helen Carter, an award-winning internist in Massachusetts. But critics dubbed her “uncaring” after she stopped accepting overweight patients and began referring them to a nearby hospital with a center that specializes in obesity. Dr. Carter insists it’s because her staff members were repeatedly being injured while caring for plus-size patients. She also hopes that sending them to an obesity clinic will make them realize their weight is a serious health hazard.
But critics say, what it really boils down to is money. They claim that a lot of doctors don’t like treating obese patients because physical exams take longer than on thinner patients. For example, it’s hard to feel the difference between “love handles” and a cancerous mass. So, doctors treating obese patients have to be slower and more methodical, which translates to seeing – and billing – fewer patients. And they’re more likely to miss a diagnosis, which means they’re more likely to be sued for malpractice. But the critics say it could more damage than good and the worst part is that an overweight patient who’s refused treatment may be so emotionally traumatized, they’ll avoid going to the doctor altogether.
What do you think? Is it okay for doctors to refuse to treat someone just because they’re overweight?
Emmy winner and Grammy nominee John Tesh and his 12-piece ensemble perform big-band music from the 1920's through the 1950's on his new CD, Big Band, and DVD of the Public Television TV special, Big Band Live, featuring behind-the-scenes footage, bonus songs, interviews and more!
Big Band takes you on a trip down memory lane with all-new arrangements of standards, including "I've Got the World on a String," "The Way You Look Tonight," "In the Mood," and "Summer Wind," along with John Tesh's own piano solos and love songs.
A special segment on the music of World War II features a medley of instrumental songs from the era, punctuated by excerpts from John's father's wartime diary.
Shipping April 17, 2012.
Pre-Order also available on iTunes
I have people ask me every year to give them my resolutions for the New Year and I am always loath to do this because it can be a very personal thing. However, this year, which will be my 60th on this earth, I feel like I need to offer up the wisdom I have gathered as a guy who has pretty much tried everything and learned volumes from his failures (and a few successes).
So here it is: My New Year's Resolution for 2012 which has been my same battle cry for about 25 years.
I wrote about this in my book a few years back under the chapter 'Hard work, Risk and Prayer' and it is a concept that the world's most successful people have learned to embrace on the road to greatness. There have been many polls over the years where senior citizens (people 80-100 years old) were asked what they would have changed about their lives. Nearly every man and woman said they would have RISKED more. Crazy, right?
How is it possible that most of us will eventually look back on our lives and wish we had taken more chances? It's true. For some reason, something in our DNA or something our parents told us established limits in our lives. That little voice in our head whispers promises of failure, embarrassment or ridicule. So, we stay in our comfort zone. We avoid taking risks because that will keep us safe from harm.
For the first one third of my life I missed out on amazing opportunities for success and joy because I was scared-to-death of failure and judgement. After many years of psychotherapy (beginning with Dr. John Hart) I was able to overcome those feelings and enjoy the beauty of RISK. There is no voodoo here and not really the need for therapy. It basically works like this.
Practice falling on your face so you'll know what it feels like. It's no longer some creepy, unknown horror. For example, Dr. Hart would have me sit at the piano and start a piece and then have me purposely make a mistake. He would ask me how it felt....what was going on in my body....to describe the feeling etc. Then he'd have me do it again and again. Then we would formulate a plan for recovery. Would I smile and acknowledge the error? Would I replace the notes with others? Would I pretend it didn't happen?
The point here is that you understand how failure feels (practice it) so you are not 'shocked' by that feeling and you can move on. You've seen men do this at parties where they ask 10 women to dance and the 11th says yes. You've seen quarterbacks throw a pass after 3 straight interceptions. You may have heard how I quit a 7-figure job at Entertainment Tonight to start a music career.
I used to work with Olympic skiing champion Billy Kidd and on the air I asked him his secret for becoming a true champion. "Falling....a lot", he said.
Risk. Make a commitment to flex your 'risk muscles' in 2012 and I will do the same. And please let me know your risk plans for this new year.
"The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing and becomes nothing. He may avoid suffering and sorrow, but he simply cannot learn and feel and change and grow and love and live." - Leo Buscaglia.
"Only those who risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go." - T.S. Eliot
All the best,