Sure, you should always give to others whenever you can. But sometimes, you've just gotta do you. And research backs that up: Studies have shown that being a little selfish can actually make you a happier person. Olga Levancuka, author ofHow to be Selfish (And Other Uncomfortable Advice) says you should be a little more self-absorbed in these areas.
1. Your Relationships
Finding the right guy can be hard work. However, you shouldn't settle for just any dude. If he's doing things like canceling plans last minute or picking silly fights, you need to ditch him.
2. Your Body
So you have a weekly exercise class you like to go to after work. But, ugh. Your friends hit you up with spontaneous plans for that night. Take a rain check. Don't skip out on getting in a good workout like you normally do. There will be plenty of other opportunities for you to hang with your friends-and those workout-induced endorphins will make you more fun to be around.
3. Your Time
Taking time to make the right decision can be a painful and stressful process. Next time you have a dilemma, make a decision within five minutes. Stick to it and spend the rest of your time enjoying your life-not agonizing over it.
4. Your Money
Next time you're out looking for a gift for a friend's birthday, don't feel bad about not shelling out loads of cash. Give her something you feel is from the heart instead, and use your extra cash to pamper yourself. It's a win-win.
5. Your Friendships
Having a lot of friends is awesome, but when you have a large group of buddies, you ultimately have some in the mix that are frenemies or time-monopolizers. Don't be afraid to cut these girls loose.
6. Your Talents
Don't be afraid to show off how fabulous you are. Next time someone compliments you on something like your baking skills, killer fashion sense, or networking abilities say "Thanks!" And then max it out. So if you really are a great baker whose main audience is your friends, use your baking skills to start a blog or business.