You're moving up on the job, thanks to your hard work and rockin' ideas. It never hurts to make a few allies along the way, though. We picked the brains of a few powerful women and career experts to get their advice on work friends you need to have to help advance your career.
1. The Interns
2. The Office Gossip
You know the type—she spends working hours doing everything but work. She might annoy the crap out of you, but she knows stuff—like who's leaving, who's being promoted—that you can use to strategize your own move up in the company.
You don't have to chime in—nor should you—when she dishes, advises career coach Nicole Williams. But definitely listen up when she talks.
3. The I.T. Girl
4. The Office Manager
5. The Developer
You have this great idea for a new software program that is sure to make bank for the company, but it requires a ton of legwork to get up and running. The problem? The development team—like I.T.—always has a ton of projects running. Get on a first-name basis with the team and your projects might get bigger priority over others.
Another benefit? Developers work closely with the management team and they might put in a good word about your project, says Janeesa Hollingshead, marketing manager for the start-up Fundable.com.
6. The Male Colleague
7. The Boss's Assistant
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Most people interact with a grocery store cashier at least a couple times a week. We hand them our credit cards and they see our most intimate purchases, but beyond a (hopefully) friendly greeting and quick “have a nice day,” those of us who have never worked as a cashier know very little about this back-breaking job. I sent out a
bat signal email to all the current and former cashiers I know, asking them one question: what do you wish you could tell every customer who comes through your line? Here’s what they said…
On Customer Interactions:
1. “When I ask you ‘How is your day going?’ I actually do want to know. Anything to distract me from my killing feet is appreciated.”
2. “Don’t hang around and flirt with me while I’m working — I’m probably not interested and it makes me look like I’m socializing on the clock to my boss.”
3. “Please do not comment on my physical attributes, it’s annoying and frankly kind of creepy. I am not a display.”
4. “Stop telling me how much cheaper our competitor is. I already know. I probably shop there too.”
5. “Personal space: Know it. Love it. Use it.”
On Your Purchases:
6. “Cashiers are totally checking out your eating habits even though we pretend not to.”
7. “I can tell the difference between cilantro and parsley…can you?”
8. “Shit can get expensive real quick when you shop in bulk so pay attention! When you get to the register and decide you no longer want your $40 bag of pine nuts, we can’t put it back in the bin. There is so much food waste this way it makes me sick.”
9. “Don’t mix your produce in a combined bag and then complain that I didn’t notice the difference between your peaches and nectarines.”
10. “I spend most of the time in my little box which means I probably don’t know if we carry your favorite brand of gluten free kosher organic sesame seaweed crackers but if you chill out for two seconds I can call someone who works in that department to find out.”
11. “If you are buying beer for underage kids, it would be advisable to not have them waiting out front in their letterman jackets….or better yet, behind you in line with an unnecessary amount of red solo cups.”
12. “Buying condoms at 16 is not embarrassing. It’s better than buying diapers at 16!”
On Unloading Your Cart/Waiting In Line:
13. “I don’t care about your opinion on paper or plastic. Bring your own bag because they both suck.”
14. “Bag your raw meats. Blood and chicken goo when drizzled on a conveyer belt can make people sick.”
15. “When people put their basket on the belt and don’t empty it while waiting in line — we hate that!”
16. “If you’re buying 5 12-packs of Coke, I only need one to scan. I’d rather not move every single one across the scanner.”
17. “There is a proper way of bagging items and the cashier usually doesn’t need help from the customer.”
18. “Leave heavy things in the cart. We have scan guns that can reach.”
19. “When you’re waiting in line, be considerate of the people around you.”
20. “Don’t leave your cart at my check stand and leave. Walk it to the door with you.”
21. “We used to have a company sponsored contest to see who could scan items the fastest. So if you see a cashier with a longer line it may mean they are faster than most. People would choose my line no matter how long it was because they knew I would get them out as soon as possible.”
22. “When paying with cash, unfold and straighten your bills before HANDING them to us politely. When you leave a clumped mess of wadded up cash for us to grab and sort it makes us want to punch you in the face.”
23. “If you’re planning on paying with a check, please have it pre-filled out, grocery shopping is not the leisurely activity you think it is, most people want to get out of here as quick as humanly possible.”
24. “Don’t get pissed when I can’t break a hundred.”
25. “Coupons aren’t just for poor people and if you don’t use them, you’re paying more than you need to. Just make sure you cut them out before you get to my line.”
26. “Food stamps does not equate to ‘free money.’ Additionally, if you offer to buy the groceries of the person in front of you with your EBT card in exchange for cash, that is VERY illegal.”
27. “You really can get a discount on dented cans if you ask.”
28. “The grocery store is not a bank so no, I can’t give you 2 rolls of quarters so you can do your laundry.”
On Common Courtesies:
29. “If you decide you don’t want to purchase one or two of the items you picked up along you’re way through the store ALWAYS hand them to the cashier. We have no magic fairies who blissfully fly around returning the items you stuff into random shelves or abandon on the magazine racks at the checkout.”
30. “Please stop your children from poking holes into the packaged hamburger. It creates more work for everyone and it’s really kind of gross.”
32. “Please don’t follow me to my new place of employment when I quit.”
33. “We are not childcare providers. Watch your own kids.”
Random Thoughts And Observations:
35. “I secretly enjoyed wearing a tie. And I took pride in being able to tie a better knot than most men.”
36. “*Me keying in the barcode on your canned peas after several failed attempts to read it over the scanner*
You: IT MUST BE FREE! HAR HAR HAR!
Me: I’ve never heard that one before!!!!”
37. “The self checkout is for your convenience. Therefore yelling “I hate these things!” while choosing to use them of your own free will just makes you sound like a moron.”
38. “Old people are really cheap and will complain if something was listed for 98 cents and they are charged 99 cents.”
39. “No one buys makeup at a grocery store, so when you need cover-up on the go, check the expiration date because it’s probably been there since the mid 1980′s.”
40. “This is a grocery store, not your bedroom. Leave the slippers and flannel pajama pants at home.”
41. “Just because I see you every day does not mean I am your friend or your therapist.”
42. “The greeting card aisle is reserved for me when Def Leppard comes on and I want to practice my breakdancing. Best stay clear.”
Just wanted to let you know that Army beat Marines 20 – 10!! The Angels team donated two of their bats, one for each team as MVP awards. My son Kris was voted MVP for the Army team. I am so proud of him and every guy on that team. Thank you for getting the word out about these wounded warriors. I hope you have a great day!
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AT A GLANCE
• American Idol runner-up Kree Harrison is making her Grand Ole Opry debut on June 4
• Harrison said, "I'm speechless. It has been my lifelong dream to perform at the Grand Ole Opry. I am so honored to be invited!”
• The show serves as the Opry's kick-off to the CMA Music Festival
American Idol runner-up Kree Harrison is making a beeline back home to Nashville to make her Grand Ole Opry debut on June 4. That show serves as the Opry's kick-off to the CMA Music Festival.
Kree is floored to be on the bill. She says, "I'm speechless. It has been my lifelong dream to perform at the Grand Ole Opry. I am so honored to be invited!”
Friday is Kree's birthday, and she told reporters in a conference call that getting the invite to perform on the Opry is the "best birthday present I've ever gotten in my life." She added that she cried when Keith Urban told her Thursday night that she'd be performing on the Opry.
Kellie Pickler, Rascal Flatts and Keith Urban are also on the Grand Ole Opry June 4.
Kree's debut single, "All Cried Out," is now available at iTunes.
Citizens of the Earth
On the last day of our Washington D.C. tour, my family decided to visit the World War II Memorial. It was a bright, sunny day in April, and the fifty white marble monuments representing each state were standing aloft with unbreakable dignity. In front of the monuments was a grand fountain, upon which the spring sunshine reflected, conjuring up a long arc of rainbow. I was baffled at first, for I had not expected a war memorial to be that beautiful; the word “war” itself is of such horrendousness and terror, that it was impossible for me to associate it with any measure of beauty.
Three years later, this paradoxical image would come to my mind again, while I was reading about the World War II on my AP U.S. history textbook. Even till the day which the President Roosevelt declared “will live in infamy,” dissents on the political stage were present; with Charles Lindbergh as the poster child, fervent isolationists and pacifists condemned the President’s any action incongruent to the promised neutrality, including providing weapons to the overwhelmed Allies. They even established the America First Committee, where isolationism’s dominant voice constantly echoed. On the other side stood the interventionist, who championed greater aid to the Allies. The disagreements between the two groups escalated. Nevertheless, once the seemingly invincible United States was attacked, both altogether quickly discarded the hostility and pledged to collaborate in war efforts. This was the start of the “reconciliatory trend” Americans would see in the next few years. Bound under the common goal of defeating the Axis powers that were swallowing the world into darkness, Americans realized that they could not drain their valuable time and energy through internal struggles and that they needed to be dedicated to the cause collectively; as a result, disputes between management and labor significantly decreased. The “voluntary cooperation” of women and minorities initially subject to discriminations successfully filled the labor shortage in war industries. Some Native Americans who often were marginalized by the society contributed as “code talkers.” Soldiers once gripped with parochialism merged with others who had different political beliefs, religions, and social status.
In line with its dear effort to sustain national unity, America befriended its long-time competitors France, Britain, and other Allies powers. Moreover, it allied itself with the Soviet Union, the stronghold of communism, which was indeed an anathema to democratic Americans. This “holding hands with the Devil,” as President Roosevelt once called, symbolizes the beautiful patience and perseverance America endured on the path to the ultimate triumph; the difference in ideologies was eventually overcome by the shared objective of peace and order.
The necessity and effectiveness of cooperation amidst any crisis or conflict is undeniable, as evinced by the World War II. As a matter of fact, I learned such simple truth through personal experience, which took place four years ago. Back in 2009, I was a middle school student enrolled in an ESL course since my family migrated to the U.S. that year. Immersed in the fear of getting rejected and possibly ridiculed for my poor English and cultural difference, I became less confident and shyer as the year progressed. Befriending someone native seemed to be out of reach, and I was sincerely desperate for help. It did not take that much time until I figured out that other students in my ESL class was equally saddled with the same issue as I was. Our teacher used to call us a mini United Nations, for we were literally from the four corners of the world! : There were students from Nigeria, Mexico, El Salvador, China, India, Sweden, Yemen, and Thailand. Excited to see the mutual desire to fit into the school community, I spontaneously proposed to the class that we should collaboratively work to “advertise” ourselves; meaning, we must let ourselves be known to others and approach them first. Then, students not in the ESL class did know even know the existence of the class, for all of us were quiet and hidden from view. We would create a club in which we could present our nationalities and share entertaining aspects of our cultures, simultaneously showing them that we are just like them, ordinary teenagers. It was a long way to accomplish our goal, and there were barriers on the way that frustrated us. Sometimes the inability to communicate fluently and the difference in culture bred miscommunications and misunderstandings. Having lived our whole lives in completely different geographical regions, we rarely reached a consensus without compromises and negotiations. However, with the help of our teacher who consistently supported and encouraged us, we did not give up on ourselves, and the common goal which we all shared, every one of us tried our best to understand each other’s difference. The result was phenomenal; more than fifty students joined our “international culture club” and showed their interest to each of our presentations. The joy that followed our success was indescribable, and we all acquired the life-changing lesson, that people are capable of achieving a common goal if they strive to work out their disagreements through understanding.
In the end, we are all humans. We inherently have sympathy toward the suffered, resentment toward the oppressive, and desire for peace and happiness. When we fully understand that all of us are citizens of the earth, when we truly see the beauty of the World War II memorial, then all the clamorous and cacophonous sounds stemming from disagreements will quiet down.