AT A GLANCE
• According to a new survey, 46% of mothers in the U.S. feel more stressed out by their husbands than their children
• Mothers feel that because of different parenting views, a lack of help with household duties, and the typical pressures of marriage, their husbands are just another child to take care of
• 3/4 of women said they do most of the day-to-day parenting and household duties
• 1 in 5 women admitted that not receiving more help around the house from their other halves is a major source of their stress
46% of mothers in the U.S. feel more stressed out by their husbands than their children, according to a new survey.
A poll of over 7,000 mothers across the country, conducted by Today Moms, found that because of different parenting views, a lack of help with household duties, and the typical pressures of marriage, many mothers feel that their husbands are just another child to take care of.
What's more, the average mother reported her stress level overall at a whopping 8.5 out of ten.
Three-quarters of those surveyed said they do most of the day-to-day parenting and household duties, a fact that has undoubtedly taken a toll.
Indeed, one-in-five admitted that not receiving more help around the house from their other halves is a major source of their stress.
He explained: 'Moms think, my primary job is to be a mom, so she looks to her husband to be a support.' When a man does not fulfill that supportive role, that's when the arguments start.
'It's easy to blame your stress on another person,' said Mr Runkel, a father-of-two. 'Marriage is emotional weight-lifting. It's exercise. And when you choose to exercise, sometimes it feels miserable.'
Still, having a partner at all does alleviate some of the day-to-day worries for mothers; the poll also revealed that single moms reported feeling the most stressed of all.
Adulthood has no eureka moment. Author and blogger Kelly Williams Brown, whose new book Adulting: How to Become a Grown-up in 468 Easy(ish) Steps came out this week, believes true maturity is instead built on smaller stepping stones: using the correct screwdriver, wearing sunscreen, not going around telling everyone the foolish thing your friend did at 14.
"Those moments of feeling together and in-control, we kind of need them," Brown says. "Because life is chaotic, and so much is out of our control, and at any moment there’s like 18 million things we’re worried about, but when a little worry crosses your path and you’re like, 'No, I’ve got it,' that’s a great feeling." Indeed. And so, using her book and enlisting her boyfriend David and good friend Markus as a guide, Brown created a special male-centric appendix for Esquire.com.
1. Learn to tie a tie. Even better: learn how to tie a bow tie. Even better than better: learn to fold a pocket square. It takes sharp dressing to another level. "You don’t even have to have it memorized," Brown says. Just go here. And here. And here.
2. Wear the right amount of cologne. Brilliant tip: shower, towel off, then spray your cologne on — then put your clothes on. “That way the cologne is on you, not on your clothes. You have to get a little bit closer.”
3. Build a fire. At the very least, know how to light a grill. “I know a lot of guys don’t like to cook that much, but even if you’re 21, you can grill. You can buy a little Weber-style kettle grill for $18 at a garage sale. Get some lighter fluid. Go get some chicken thighs, pour some Italian dressing over them, and that’s your marinade. Then sit around, drink a beer. Let it happen.” Some help.
4. Know how to take care of a hungover lady. Brown and co. have this broken down to a science. “Here’s what you’re going to do: have some coconut water on hand. You have some delivery on speed dial so you can get her some food, and then you have one rom-com for her to watch, and Markus suggested Love, Actually.” Really, anything set in England or starring Hugh Grant will do.
5. Ask a woman on a date. A real date. And no, gentlemen, "group hang" does not qualify. “I think there’s something very charming if someone asks you out on a date. They have the intention, but they also have a plan. They don’t leave it all up to you. So even something simple like, ‘You know, it was so great to see you after that party the other day. Do you want to grab drinks after work on Friday?’" The date doesn't need to break the bank, either. Brown's examples: walk around a park together and point out the ridiculous things that other people are wearing, or go to Goodwill and try to find the most hideous item there.
6. Enjoy the company of old people. For life advice, but also just for fun. “Old men will give you the greatest fashion advice. They know how to look sharp. They know how to be put-together. They know about the pocket square. These are the people who won World War II. And old women are even better — they’ve reached the ‘do not give a fk’ stage.”
7. The more time you spend talking about yourself and how great you are, the less great you seem. Next time you catch yourself yakking on about work, take a minute to reassess. “It’s always the people who never say much about what they’re doing who you later you find out — ‘Oh, he said work was going well?’ and someone’s like, ‘He just won the Nobel.’"
8. Ironing in general. Particularly a dress shirt. Yes, you can own an iron. And yes, you can even own an ironing board. And when you actually put them to use, you can elevate your everyday style from "eh" to "Okay." “I had a guy friend, and he ironed almost everything before he wore it. Even a T-shirt — he’d give it a quick iron. And his clothes always looked great. It’s hard to look super-capable if you’re also very wrinkly. Wrinkly and capable are often mutually exclusive topics.” Cautionary tip: On the iron, it will say what temp it needs to be for your fabric. Follow that. “Don’t think ‘Oh, I’m going to turn it up all the way for masculine manliness.” Also make sure you’re always moving the iron — otherwise, burns happen.
9. Crack open your car manual — and actually read it. You don't have to be John Travolta in "Greased Lightnin," but little things like changing a car headlight can save you time and, more important, money. "Know what’s in your manual. Flip through it. You’ll be surprised at how much stuff you can do yourself if you just know what’s in the manual."
10. Be a thoughtful gifter. Notice the girl likes something. One time she’ll say, 'Oh, I love this bracelet. Oh, this blouse is so pretty. Oh, this is such a cute little pot for my house.' Just remember one of those times. File it away. Go buy that thing. Wait three months. Give it to her. She will be yours forever."
For proof that Angelina Jolie's revelation about her double mastectomy is already giving other women strength, look no further than CNN's Zoraida Sambolin.
The morning-news anchor on Tuesdayrevealed her own struggle with breast cancer, and her plans for a double mastectomy later this month, after seeing Jolie's brave piece in The New York Times.
"This inspired me to talk," Sambolin, 47, told PEOPLE shortly after making her revelation on the air during CNN's coverage of Jolie's announcement. "When we went into the story, it felt right to share it."
Zoraida Sambolin and her family
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Sambolin says she was diagnosed about three weeks ago. After finding signs of cancer in both breasts, she decided on a double mastectomy as the best course of treatment.
"I have two beautiful kids," she said. "I want to live for them. You would cut off any appendage to see them grow up."
Sambolin says she's grateful to Jolie for giving her a way to open up to viewers about her upcoming leave of absence. "I didn't want anyone feeling sorry for me," she says. "I didn't want to be emotional wreck on air. I tried to figure out the best way. Then when I saw this, I thought, 'Wow, okay.' "
AT A GLANCE
• Wealthy NYC moms have figured out a way to cut the long lines at Disney World
• They are hiring disabled people to pose as family members so they and their kids can jump to the front
• The “black-market Disney guides” run $130 an hour, or $1,040 for an eight-hour day
• Disney allows each guest who needs a wheelchair or motorized scooter to bring up to six guests to a “more convenient entrance"
• Disney Tours offers a VIP guide and fast passes for $310 to $380 per hour
They are 1 percenters who are 100 percent despicable.
Some wealthy Manhattan moms have figured out a way to cut the long lines at Disney World — by hiring disabled people to pose as family members so they and their kids can jump to the front, The Post has learned.
The “black-market Disney guides” run $130 an hour, or $1,040 for an eight-hour day.
“My daughter waited one minute to get on ‘It’s a Small World’ — the other kids had to wait 2 1/2 hours,” crowed one mom, who hired a disabled guide through Dream Tours Florida.
“You can’t go to Disney without a tour concierge,’’ she sniffed. “This is how the 1 percent does Disney.”
The woman said she hired a Dream Tours guide to escort her, her husband and their 1-year-old son and 5-year-old daughter through the park in a motorized scooter with a “handicapped” sign on it. The group was sent straight to an auxiliary entrance at the front of each attraction.
Disney allows each guest who needs a wheelchair or motorized scooter to bring up to six guests to a “more convenient entrance.”
The Florida entertainment mecca warns that there “may be a waiting period before boarding.” But the consensus among upper-crust moms who have used the illicit handicap tactic is that the trick is well worth the cost.
Not only is their “black-market tour guide” more efficient than Disney World’s VIP Tours, it’s cheaper, too.
Disney Tours offers a VIP guide and fast passes for $310 to $380 per hour.
Passing around the rogue guide service’s phone number recently became a shameless ritual among Manhattan’s private-school set during spring break. The service asks who referred you before they even take your call.
“It’s insider knowledge that very few have and share carefully,” said social anthropologist Dr. Wednesday Martin, who caught wind of the underground network while doing research for her upcoming book “Primates of Park Avenue.”
“Who wants a speed pass when you can use your black-market handicapped guide to circumvent the lines all together?” she said.
“So when you’re doing it, you’re affirming that you are one of the privileged insiders who has and shares this information.”
Ryan Clement runs Dream Tours Florida with girlfriend Jacie Christiano, whom the rich Manhattan mom indicated was her family’s guide.
A working phone number for Christiano couldn’t be found, and Clement refused to put The Post through to her. A message left on Facebook was not immediately returned by Christiano.
Clement denied that his gal pal uses her disability to bypass lines. He said she has an auto-immune disorder and acknowledged that she uses a scooter on the job.
Disney did not return repeated requests for comment.
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AT A GLANCE
• Neighbors of a Florida home known for its extreme holiday displays are calling on officials to head off this year's before it begins
• The "Hyatt Extreme Christmas," an annual display at the Plantation Acres home of Mark and Kathy Hyatt, typically does not begin its first stages until September
• City Councilman Bob Levy explained, "The lights are blinding...The traffic from cars, the pedestrians...are creating a real problem"
• The annual display includes about 200K lights, a 20-foot Ferris wheel ridden by stuffed animals, a 30-foot Christmas tree, human-sized gingerbread men, a 20-foot inflatable movie screen showing Disney films and a snow-blowing machine
PLANTATION ACRES, Fla., May 14 (UPI) -- Neighbors of a Florida home known for its extravagant holiday displays are calling on officials to head off this year's "Extreme Christmas" before it begins.
The "Hyatt Extreme Christmas," an annual display at the Plantation Acres home of Mark and Kathy Hyatt, typically does not begin its first stages until September. But City Councilman Bob Levy said several homeowners on the same cul-de-sac as the home have already contacted him about stopping this year's display, the South Florida Sun Sentinel reported Tuesday.
"The lights are blinding," Levy said. "The traffic from cars, the pedestrians ... are creating a real problem. There has to be something ... I just can't believe that our hands are totally tied."
The annual display includes about 200,000 lights, a 20-foot Ferris wheel ridden by stuffed animals, a 30-foot Christmas tree, human-sized gingerbread men, a 20-foot inflatable movie screen showing Disney films and a snow-blowing machine.
Mayor Diane Veltri Bendekovic said the feud between the Hyatts and their neighbors has been heating up in recent years.
"I've tried to be the peacemaker," the mayor said. "It's just not happening. It's like the Hatfields and the McCoys out there."
Kathy Hyatt called the mayor "a hater of Christmas."
"I don't know why she doesn't have better things to do with her time," Hyatt said. "I don't know why she doesn't embrace 'Hyatt Extreme Christmas.'"
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• In Swaziland, witches are forbidden to fly their broomsticks higher than 150 meters
• Though it seems like a joke, witchcraft in the African country is taken seriously
• Witch doctors in the country pay an annual tax of $1.15, but last year, members of Swazi parliament argued that it should be raised to help the country's debt
In Swaziland, witches are forbidden to fly their broomsticks higher than 150 meters, and if they do, they are subject to arrest and a fine of R500 000 ($55,000 USD).
Though it seems like a joke, witchcraft in the African country is taken seriously.
Civil Aviation Authority marketing and corporate affairs director Sabelo Dlamini forbid witches from flying high in the skies. He announced it in response to a question from the press about the arrest of Hunter Shongwe, who operated a remote-controlled drone with a video camera. He was using the drone to conduct a private investigation.
Witch doctors in the country pay an annual tax of $1.15, but last year, members of Swazi parliament argued that it should be raised to help the country's debt.
An effort to reduce the spread of HIV by circumcising men in the country failed mainly because citizens believe witches might use the skin for dark purposes.
"Criminals are known to seek 'strengthening' potions made with human body parts. Killings associated with 'ritual murder' routinely correspond with national elections. Victims, usually children or older people, are found with body parts missing."
During a trial for a Mambane man's murder of his aunt, he used his family's belief in witchcraft as a defense. He said he saw a black robe in her house and had to kill her because she was a witch.
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