Behaving Better for Others: Good at School, Knucklehead at Home
While we want our children to be successful in school, pleasant to be around, and loving to their friends and family, many parents find it aggravating when their children are “perfect angels” at school, and challenging at home. Glowing reports arrive from the teacher, at the same time as little Susie is talking back and throwing her belongings all over the floor. What’s going on here?
First and foremost, keep in mind that sometimes children are holding in their emotions, and remaining on their best behavior at school, only to decompensate and collapse in a safe environment, once they arrive home. This can be the case during the transition time between school dismissal and dinner. If this is what you suspect, it shouldn’t be occurring over a long period of time, however, or lasting during the weekends.
Secondly, it might be wise to check your calendar, and determine if this is a chronic problem, or a phase that might be due to growth and development. Remember, when children are experiencing a growth spurt, whether it’s physical or cognitive, behavior can regress, and emotions can become tense. As children grow and develop, they often swing back and forth between periods of cooperative, congenial behavior and periods of challenging, disruptive behavior.
If you have determined this is a chronic problem, here are some ideas for getting proactive about getting behavior back on the right track.
With time and effort, your child’s behavior should become more consistent wherever he or she is – home, school, Grandma’s house or birthday party. You can do this - I know you can!