“If you give kids so much early on, they get to a point where they can’t be satisfied with anything,” says Dan Kindlon, Ph D., clinical and research psychologist at Harvard University and author of Too Much of a Good Thing: Raising Children of Character in an Indulgent Age.
How do you know if your kids are spoiled?
· Every time they talk to you, they are whining.
· No one else does chores in the house, but you.
· When YOU are solving their problems, and it becomes more important than solving your own problems.
· YOU are doing THEIR homework.
· YOUR plans for Saturday night can be changed at a moment’s notice by THEIR plans for Saturday night.
· When they get in trouble, it’s everyone else’s fault.
It’s a slippery slope that we can unwittingly slide down …
A spoiled child is a child who takes no initiative to solve his or her own problems, and absolutely depends on others to make him feel good. This outlook on life is pretty dismal. By spoiling children, a parent is setting a child up for a life of disappointment.
Here’s what to do:
There will always be a lot of pressure on parents to protect their children, and protection is one of our roles as parents. An equally important job of parents is to prepare our children for the real world, and if we spoil them, we aren’t preparing them.
You can do this – I know you can!