Have you seen the lists going around on Facebook, such as “20 Things to teach your daughters”, “Rules for Sons” and “Before they Leave Home”? The lists seem to make sense, and we can hardly disagree with “Teach your daughter to be strong and confident” or “Teach him to have manners”. Other lists suggest:
I’ve read through these lists with interest. Some items I could check off as “Done”, many others were still on the list. If I kept reading for too long, I became overwhelmed. There are a lot of “To Do’s” on those lists for Pete’s sake! Maybe we should just start with reconnecting.
In the hustle and bustle of life, it’s far too easy to lose our connection with our children. I would bet the recent news stories involving teen violence might include the risk-factor of lack of connection to a grown-up. Many times when we find we are yelling a lot, anxious and overly sensitive around our children, it just may be that we need to reconnect. Our children need to have strong connections to us, or they can feel “untethered” and the responsibility of raising themselves can be too much. Making strong connections with your child leads to better brain development as well, not just in the early years, but through elementary school, and middle school, as well.
Here are some ideas to consider and a few starting points:
Try a few, and reconnect with your child. It may be awkward at first,
but You Can Do This!